I get asked relationship advice which floors me since I obviously have missed the boat completely on that one. I tend to fall for the ones that don’t fall for me. I think that is how it is with most women that we can have a myriad of men that follow us, and we go for the one that doesn’t care about us.
Now, just to clarify, I am not talking about anyone in my life in particular, but I am speaking in general terms. However, it seems that more often than not, we women get caught up in a circle of pursing the one that doesn’t want to pursue us back. It is a fairly common topic among single women.
I have had a couple of friends dealing with this particular issues as of late, and I get it. I have been there. I have been hurt by it. Silly me, I keep trying to follow up and work things out. I will try relentlessly to get things back to where they “were.”
Today though, a friend sent me this, and it completely and totally explains this situation to women and makes so much sense. It hit me in such a vulnerable place in my heart and I wanted to keep it to refer back to.
If a man doesn’t call you, it’s because he doesn’t want to call you.
If he doesn’t invite you to go out, it’s because he doesn’t want to see you.
If he treats you like Sh**, it’s because he doesn’t care.
If he let’s you go, it’s because he doesn’t want to be with you.
When a man says, “I’m not ready but you are the love of my life and the only one I want, but right now is not right time” it’s simply because he doesn’t want you.
Don’t keep playing his confusing games.
Don’t justify him.
When a man wants to be with a woman, he stays with her without lies, excuses and complications.
Stop being genuine and naive, and stop justifying his every excuse and complication and put yourself first.
You DO NOT need someone that doesn’t know what they want.
You DO NOT need someone that doesn’t see your worth.
You deserve a man that knows you’re worth and fights for you everyday.
Stop breaking your own heart for someone who probably won’t even be as good as you expect and give yourself an opportunity to be happy and be with someone who actually deserves you.
Oh my goodness, this was perfect. Absolutely perfect. It is something that I keep getting in the trap of, and I am realizing that I need to break that.