Although there are a lot of things that I have to catch up on, and I really do want to make sure that I get everything covered, I also have to try to chronicle things as they are happening. Even though every day is not a earth shattering, mind blowing fight day, little things are constantly happening that make me go hmmmmm. I am so glad that my sister is here a lot more often and that she is able to help me through a lot of this.
I talked to the stake president last week (who is also coincidentally my second cousin) about what was going on. He was already aware but, not to a huge extent, of what was going on. He did ask me however, if H was coming by and helping out with things around the house. I told him the truth, he hasn’t. He only helps when I mention that I am going to something myself or if I am going to have my dad help me.
So….. H apparently talked to him on Sunday. I know this because the executive secretary called here to set up the appointment. He called me on Sunday and asked if he could come by and fix a toilet that has been running. I know that the only reason that he did that was because he had a “chat” with the stake president. Yesterday he text me and asked if he could come by and fix it. I had a friend over who was helping me with a RS project so, I text him back and told him that it was not a good night. He text asking me why and what was going on.
Ok… so here is my problem. He is not living here. We are SEPARATED. However, he still wants to hold the element of control over my head and want to know exactly everything that is going on. I didn’t respond to his text.
So that brings us to today. Today was a long day for me. The boys didn’t sleep very well last night. I didn’t sleep very well last night. I was gone most of the day with the boys. We had a doctor appt for B and I was shopping for fabric to make a friend’s daughter a baptism dress.
I ended up putting B on medication at the beginning of the year. It looks as though he has some attention problems and the medication REALLY helps him out a lot. We went in for a med check with our doctor. While there, I mentioned some concerns about N and her continued spaciness. We decided to put her on a small dose of meds too. This will help her concentrate a little more in school while this is all going on. The drawback to this is that they are quite expensive and H had a change in his insurance which makes for prescriptions to be very very expensive. But, you do what you do for your kiddos.
They boys were driving me crazy and I was about ready to drop T off at the gypsy drop off for terrible children. My sis came over after she got off of work to lend me a hand. She is amazing.
I asked H to bring over the prescription card so that I could pick up the prescriptions. I knew that he would interpret that as come over and spend the whole night driving me crazy. However, I needed to get the meds today. (I am making this story way too long) He came by and wanted to fix the toilet as well. I was exhausted, cranky and didn’t want to see him but, didn’t turn him away. I feel like I have to jump through these hoops of being nice and kind to him just to show the world that I am trying and not being prideful. I did ask him to please pick up the meds for the kids first.
When he showed up at the house, he immediately started asking me questions about last night. He started asking who I was with. What I was doing. Where did I go. I about smacked him. Why in the world does he care! I don’t do a darn thing.
He returned an hour later and proceeded to explain to me every detail about the medications. I don’t know if he told me this because he wanted to sound like he knew what he was talking about or if he was trying to look smart in front of my sister. It was annoying as all can be. I know what they do. I was at the doctor’s office for an hour and a half with B. I have researched the drugs on the internet. I know more about them than the little insert says. However, he just wouldn’t let it drop.
(As a side note, as he left to go pick up the meds, he knew that I was a little bit annoyed with him. I told my sister that I would make her a bet. I told her that he would return with a 2 liter of Diet Coke and a snack. He always does that when he has done something annoying and knows it. I won the bet.)
Instead of going in to fix the toilet at this point in time, he sat down and joined in the conversation with my sister and I for an hour and a half. He was so interested in the conversation and what we were talking about and partly to make sure that he knew what I was talking about than actually doing something to help. My sister stayed to help me so that I didn’t have to be alone with him. However, he continued to persist.
After she left, he started questioning me about the kids’ medications. He asked why they were necessary. He asked why we couldn’t get a generic. When I told him that we needed them, he told me that N wasn’t doing that bad in school. I was FLOORED. He was more concerned about saving a bit of money than he was helping our children so that they could be more productive in school and in life. I mentioned to him that I would like to take some money and set it aside in a savings account and apply it towards their medications just so that it wouldn’t be a monthly burden. He then said, “but, I thought that you wanted to get …… done. Don’t you want to do this instead….” I couldn’t believe it. He was more concerned with what he wanted than making sure that the kids had what they needed. It is just another way in which he is selfish.