This little girl right here is my inspiration, my rock and my hero. She has lived a lot of life in her short 15 years on this earth. She has been through a lot and has had to deal with more than someone her age should have to. She does so brilliantly and with so much dignity and grace. With Kyra, what you see, is what you get. She is insanely genuine, kind and the most loving creature on the planet. She has an innocence to her that is not found in most young women her age, and I am blessed by her presence in my life.
When Kyra was 7, her dad and I separated. It was one week into her second grade year. Although I tried to shelter her as much as I could from a nasty, bitter divorce, I knew that it still affected her. Of course it did, how could it not. She was now in a home with only one parent, and the kids didn’t have overnight visitations with their dad for several years after the fact.
She is now in her second year in high school and is currently a sophmore. This is the first time in 7 years that she is attending the same school for two consecutive years in a row. Between moving, my job, school changes, etc. she attended 6 schools in 6 years. Matching that up with having to deal with a divorce, mom remarrying and divorcing a second time, and moving, she has endured a lot. For those years in school this is how it went.
K-1 She attended Kindergarten at one school, but I moved her part way through first grade, when she was bullied, and there wasn’t anything that I could to stop it.
1-4 She spent the rest of 1st in her new school, Westvale until she finished 4th.
5- At the end of 4th, we moved to Herriman, I remarried and she moved to Butterfield Canyon.
6- At the end of 5th, we moved again, I started my second divorce, got a job at Silver Crest and brought her along with me.
7- She attended the junior high down the street from Silver Crest and would walk to my school after her school let out.
8- We moved to Draper and she started a new junior high by our home.
9- She moved on to high school at the high school right by our home.
10- FIRST time at the same school since she was in the fourth grade. I don’t know how I would handle that situation.
All of the moves have been hard for her. Academically every school and program is different and we have spent a lot of time trying to play catch up and slow down as we move between schools. Kyra has struggled in some of her classes which comes as a result of a lot of these, and other factors. Last year was a rough year for us. Although she studied, the stress of moving to yet another new environment proved to be a little bit much for her and she was not able to make and keep her grades up to the level that they needed to be.
My being so busy and exhausted from work didn’t help matters. Although I always wanted to be there for my kids, it is a really hard line for me. I do not always do the single working mom thing well. I hate to say that with teaching, the students at my school often times get the best parts of me, leaving little to nothing behind for my own children. I feel great copability when my children do not do as well as they should. I am working extremely hard to try to bridge that gap right now. It is slow, but I am working on it.
She ended the last year discouraged and overwhelmed. She was frustrated with math and Spanish especially. She would put in hours of work and homework and leave with little results. Part of this was due to not understanding, while other parts were to procrastination and a busy family. Regardless, she was nervous to start the beginning of the year, not wanting it to a repeat performance this upcoming year.
Two days before school started officially, the school had a picture day. They could go in, check their schedule, find their locker and get their ID picture taken. I was back to work already and was unable to take her, but my mom came and saved the day, but dropping her off so that she could get it taken care of.
A week later, at Back to School night, I found out what my amazing daughter did this time. On the day of going to get her picture taken, she the initiative to make an appointment and sit down with a school counselor. She discussed her issues with the counselor and told her that she didn’t feel comfortable moving forward with the classes that she had on her schedule (Math 2 and Spanish 4 honors.) She, with the help of her counselor worked out a plan.
Kyra asked if she could retake Spanish 3 honors, but work with a different teacher. Even though her grade was fine and he advanced her without issues, she felt that she didn’t have a good enough grasp on the class and wanted to retake it for her own peace of mind. As for the math, She found out that there was an option to give up an elective, and take math every day, instead of every other day. This was called Math 1-2. This would let her retake her Math 1 to give her a fresh start during the first semester, while moving onto Math 2 during the second semester. She would have to give up an elective (something that she desperately wanted) but would give her a better understanding of math and be completely caught up with everyone by the end of the year.
Now, Kyra didn’t mention any of this to me. She did it all on her own. I found out the night we went back to Back to School night. I went to go meet her teachers and find out about the classes. It was there that the counselor found me and asked to talk to me. She told me what a mature young woman I had and that she hadn’t ever had anyone make requests like that on their own. She was shocked to discover that I wasn’t aware of the change and that I wasn’t the one who was pushing for her to do it.
I sit in admiration of that girl. I know for a fact that I would NOT have done that at her age. For me it was about the grade and getting the class over with. I would never have purposely chosen to retake a class, just to get a better understanding of it. Nope. I don’t know if I would even now, if it was a class that I didn’t enjoy.
This girl is an AMAZING example to me of what it is to the right thing…. always. The complete epitome of integrity and perserverence. I truly hope to be more like her, as the world needs more Kyras. I am SO lucky to have been blessed to have her in my life.