On my short drive to work, I listen to a radio station that has a really good morning crew. They have a cute millenial young lady on there who discusses the nuances and lingo of the 20 somethings. I find it so interesting to hear what is new in our language. It helps me understand what in the world my students are talking about. I have to say, I am not only learning a lot, but also realize how old I am getting.
Well, a couple of days ago, they brought up a term “mosting.” I hadn’t ever heard it before, but apparently it is a new slang term. It is apparently a combination of “ghosting” (a term that I also learned on that program which means to have someone that you are seeing, communicating with or friends with totally disappear on you) and the word most.
This phenomenon is where someone is actively pursing you, and goes at you full throttle, then after meeting, chatting or whatever, completely disappears. It resonated so strongly with me! It was one of those ah ha moments where all of a sudden so much of my life makes perfect sense. This is something that has happened to me more times than I could possibly count. It is one of those experiences that leaves you knowing that something must be wrong with me, but leaves you completely perplexed as to what it could be.
First of all, it was a huge sigh of comfort that it wasn’t just me! I know that sounds down right mean that I was relieved that it happens to other people. I hate that other people have to go through that. However, knowing that I am not alone in that situation, made me fell, well, a bit more normal.
Secondly, it gave me insight onto my own life and dating, committment, relationship, whatever issues. I have the HARDEST time putting any sort of stock into pursing relationships. I am so flattered by a man that will actively show interest. I love when people go out of their walk to to talk to me, chat with me, and make me feel interesting and important. Chatting, interaction and witty banter are so intriguing to me and I crave it. When I do click with someone, and it advances to meeting or going out, that is when it all stops.
I have always had the hardest time figuring it out. What is it? What happens between “You are the most amazing person I have ever known. I can’t wait to meet you and get together with you.” to “………..” I just don’t get it.
I taught myself how to compartmentalize my thoughts and feelings making it easier for me to not care when someone drops off the map. I used to be so hopeful and full of life when it came to a new prospect. However, over time, I have become very jaded. I really am tired of investing time and energy into the whole banter game for it to fall flat.
What is it that makes people go from 120 mph to 0 in .000005 seconds? I can understand not being interested in someone, but going from over the top interested and can’t get enough of the person, to the next day, it is as though you had never met.