I am a single mom of three great kiddos. My middle child is high functioning autistic and SPD, and I am now intensely suspecting that my oldest is SPD as well.
When my son was little, I knew of he was on the spectrum when he was very little, but my family never really supported me. They called him wild and misbehaved and insinuated that I was a bad mother and didn’t have good control over my children. They teased him, not meaning to be mean, but he didn’t get it and it really irritated me.
Well, now we are many many years down the road and he is the butter to my bread. Yes, we have our issues and struggles. He is not an easy child, but the most loving and tenderhearted and truly happy little person that I have ever known. Most people see him as being different or immature and don’t take the time to get to know him and it breaks my heart.
Since that time, my brother has had a daughter that was also diagnosed with autism. They also have one DS daughter and expecting another DS baby in a month. My family treats her so well and takes time to understand her and support her. They offer to babysit, help around the house and build backyard sets to help her cope. They haven’t ever done anything like that for me, which always catches me off as our children have the same thing.
Anyway, the plus side to this whole this hit me so hard this year. My son has always asked for random items for Christmas and has his heart set on them. I have sought out squeaky shoes before they carried them in the US and a life jacket the day before Christmas a few years ago because that was what he wanted MOSTEST. This year was a doozie. The Ostrich Pillow (google it) At over $100 a pop, it was way out of my budget, but I ordered a knock off. It took a month to get here!!!! CHRISTMAS EVE!!!
His dad told me that there was no way he was going to get that for him because it was stupid and my family told me that I was a cruel mom to put him in a position that he would be teased. But, as austism parents, you get it…… I have never seen a child more excited in my entire life. He was so thrilled that he only took it off to move around and that was only when he HAD to.
He was so worried about taking it to my family Christmas party because he was afraid that he was going to be teased. I had to tell him that it was HIM and that NOTHING else mattered.
I just have to say that this moment was a total MOM PAY DAY! Best day ever and I am so grateful that I have my little guy. Every year he grows up… but not really. He is a perfect combination of Olaf (from Frozen,) Elf and Sponge Bob. What a blessing it is to have these sweet kids! LOVE HIM.
Thanks for letting me share. Not many people get it. I hope that you all had a happy holiday, no matter what you celebrate or where you are.